dreams

There are very few words more powerful than “You can’t.” When you come into this world, you are natural dreamers. You have a natural inclination to believe you can sail across the world. But the two words, “You can’t” is enough to take every bit of wind out of our sails. And when these words are spoken from those we love and trust, that’s like drilling holes in bottom of the very ship we are suppose to sail in. Parents have a responsibility to rear their children. They hold an immense power over every aspect of their children’s development. Children study and interpret every word and action parents take as absolute truths. So when a parent says, “You can’t.” A child listens. But, here’s the truth. When a parent says “You can’t” or “You’ll never” or even the less aggressive, “Don’t worry, not everyone is supposed to _______.” They are assuming they know a future they really do not know. No one knows what your life will look like in 10 years. Ultimately, you control that future. But if you are a parent, you can, and I would argue, have an absolute responsibility to influence that future for your children. When I was in 10th grade, I remember a very distinct event that shaped the way I think and believe. This single event convinced me I have the greatest parents in the world. In I said something that my parent would think was ‘crazy’, but ultimately impossible, and ridiculous. They thought that I just a shy girl and dependent on them. I simply said to my dad, “Dad, I think I want to go to boarding school when I'm a grade 11 student .” Now my father would have laughed, he would have talked about how that’s a impossible idea to me. They would have thought to themselves, I’ll believe it when I see it. You know what my dad said? He said, “Trust me you never do that, because you just a shy girl. you can't live without your mother ” But then I was determined to prove my father wrong, by the way studying at a boarding school. And I had do that. Never says "You can't" to any child, because they'll believe and have negative thoughts. Trusting your children and don't force your children to do something that they don't want. Their choice, their job and their future but not you.